I recently got back from a trip: 6 weeks away from home. Away from my books, my tools, my computer (*gasp!) and my everyday life. While I don't consider myself one to take my life for granted, I think it is very easy to not see what is in front of us.
There are days where I think that I don't get much accomplished during a day. I admit, I like to play games and read fiction and watch tv (and probably a host of other things I can't think of right now that are 'just for fun'). Being a stay at home mom, I have very little I need to do everyday, so it is pretty easy to fall into just piddling around.
Sometimes I have practice envy. I read about Ceremonialists who build whole rooms, with painted walls and floors, ornate altars and fancy tools....and rituals that require instruction booklets. Or shamans who take week long vision quests.
But being away from my normal life really brought into focus all the little things that are part of my day that I don't always think about. Daily meditation is something I have done since grade school. Sure, I would like to expand upon it, but it is a part of my night time routine and gets done every night.
Since I started learning chants this year, that has become a part of my day too. I have always been a singer, and pretty much anytime I am doing anything there is a tune or words running through my mind. Now I find myself chanting as I wash dishes or cook.
I definitely consider myself a scholar of sorts. I am fascinated by knowledge and learning. There are always topics that I want to learn more about. Being away from my computer (and thus the internet) is a very trying experience for me. Even without access to research capabilities I find myself jotting notes down of things to look up when I am able.
I think there is great value in sometimes taking a step outside of our regular life (either by choice or necessity). You discover how much you have when you are without it. Getting back into my everyday rhythms, I always appreciate what I have that much more.
Monday, July 30, 2012
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Where Is Everyone?!
I can't believe no one has posted on here for a month. Oh, but wait, what am I saying? I haven't been on here for over a month. I guess people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. My life has been ridiculously insane for the past six months, courtesy of my two daughters and my roommate/partner who are all jealous each other. My daughters hate the time I give my partner and my partner hates that I have to give time to my children. It's vicious cycle with me caught in the middle. The end result was a trip to the hospital because I thought I was having a heart attack but it turned out to just be severe stomach acid. At any rate, the stress was at the bottom of the problems. So, I've learned to take things in stride a little better and tune out everyone when they start bitching about each other or things I'm doing they don't like. I just follow my path, do what my heart says is right and to hell with everything and everyone else. Thinking you might have had a heart attack will definitely change your attitude about a lot things.
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Some thoughts on the Tripple Goddess
It seems like you can't read much of anything about the Goddess concept without coming across the maiden/mother/crone trinity. I always had several issues with this though. Firstly, not every woman will be or can identify with the Mother aspect as traditionally explained (mother=children). Plus I really dislike the idea that you pass through each phase to the next. And lastly, I think this is a very one sided elitist concept that is often (it seems) used to set women apart from men as something 'more' (since women create and bear life within their own bodies).
Firstly, I am a woman, and I am a biological mother. I have a son whom I love dearly...and yet I rarely identify myself as a mother. It's not that I deny my motherhood, but more I just don't define myself as a mother first and foremost. It is a part of who I am but it is not the be all and end all of who I am.
When I think of the mother concept, I think of that nurturing comfort. Especially during the pregnancy, you are everything to the child you bear inside you. Their life is literally in your hands. But beyond the birth, I think when most of us think of our own Mother, we get ideas of home (of being safe and protected and cared for) and of someone who helped us grow and become the people who we are today. Even if we didn't have the best mother personally, there is so much out there about this aspect of motherhood, I think that it is ingrained in us as the ideal mother: the one who sacrifices of herself so her child can flourish.
But I don't think motherhood is restricted to physical offspring. I think we can embrace the essence of motherhood in other creative parts of our life. When we get an idea, and ruminate on it, and then eventually bring it into being, we have taken on the role of mother. Part of what I see in the aspect of motherhood is this concept of planning and working towards something that won't happen immediately. We have our eyes on the future, and are looking forward.
In contrast, if we look at the maiden aspect, we are looking at a younger woman. Much can be said about looking at the world through a child's eyes, and this is what I feel represents the maiden. It is before you start worrying about the future, when anything can capture your attention and become your whole world. It has a timeless quality in that you fully loose yourself in the moment. Fun is something that is vital and worthwhile, and you are more likely to shirk your responsibilities for what you want to do than you are to deny yourself.
In the crone, we start to look back. We have lived so much and experienced so much, and we see the next generation (even if they aren't our blood relatives) struggling with things we have learned to overcome. We have both the time and the patience to sit and think, and by examining our past we can learn so much more about ourselves and the world because we can see the bigger picture and make better connections. We want to share our thoughts with those we care about, although we may find they aren't ready to receive all of our insight yet.
I think that we all, both men and women, both with and without physical offspring, both young and old, have bits of all three in us. Our personal journey will, most likely take us to places where our focus is more firmly rooted in one or another, but we are never without the others.
Knowing that you have them all inside you allows you to deliberately call upon what is needed at any given moment. There are times where the freedom and abandon of the maiden is necessary for our souls. It is a time of renewal, of bringing back that youthful energy, and celebrating the experience of living. The mother aspect helps us to keep steady, to keep our eyes on our goals and to endure the work that it takes to bring them into the world. And when we see what we have created, we get the quiet satisfaction that we helped bring it into being, even after they take on a life of their own. And the crone teaches us that we can take time to think about who we are and where we have been. That reflecting on our past gives us insight we can take to the future. If we don't learn to recognize both the good and the bad choices we have made, we can't make better choices in the times to come.
Firstly, I am a woman, and I am a biological mother. I have a son whom I love dearly...and yet I rarely identify myself as a mother. It's not that I deny my motherhood, but more I just don't define myself as a mother first and foremost. It is a part of who I am but it is not the be all and end all of who I am.
When I think of the mother concept, I think of that nurturing comfort. Especially during the pregnancy, you are everything to the child you bear inside you. Their life is literally in your hands. But beyond the birth, I think when most of us think of our own Mother, we get ideas of home (of being safe and protected and cared for) and of someone who helped us grow and become the people who we are today. Even if we didn't have the best mother personally, there is so much out there about this aspect of motherhood, I think that it is ingrained in us as the ideal mother: the one who sacrifices of herself so her child can flourish.
But I don't think motherhood is restricted to physical offspring. I think we can embrace the essence of motherhood in other creative parts of our life. When we get an idea, and ruminate on it, and then eventually bring it into being, we have taken on the role of mother. Part of what I see in the aspect of motherhood is this concept of planning and working towards something that won't happen immediately. We have our eyes on the future, and are looking forward.
In contrast, if we look at the maiden aspect, we are looking at a younger woman. Much can be said about looking at the world through a child's eyes, and this is what I feel represents the maiden. It is before you start worrying about the future, when anything can capture your attention and become your whole world. It has a timeless quality in that you fully loose yourself in the moment. Fun is something that is vital and worthwhile, and you are more likely to shirk your responsibilities for what you want to do than you are to deny yourself.
In the crone, we start to look back. We have lived so much and experienced so much, and we see the next generation (even if they aren't our blood relatives) struggling with things we have learned to overcome. We have both the time and the patience to sit and think, and by examining our past we can learn so much more about ourselves and the world because we can see the bigger picture and make better connections. We want to share our thoughts with those we care about, although we may find they aren't ready to receive all of our insight yet.
I think that we all, both men and women, both with and without physical offspring, both young and old, have bits of all three in us. Our personal journey will, most likely take us to places where our focus is more firmly rooted in one or another, but we are never without the others.
Knowing that you have them all inside you allows you to deliberately call upon what is needed at any given moment. There are times where the freedom and abandon of the maiden is necessary for our souls. It is a time of renewal, of bringing back that youthful energy, and celebrating the experience of living. The mother aspect helps us to keep steady, to keep our eyes on our goals and to endure the work that it takes to bring them into the world. And when we see what we have created, we get the quiet satisfaction that we helped bring it into being, even after they take on a life of their own. And the crone teaches us that we can take time to think about who we are and where we have been. That reflecting on our past gives us insight we can take to the future. If we don't learn to recognize both the good and the bad choices we have made, we can't make better choices in the times to come.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Circle flexibility
I am a circle caster. For most rituals I like to cast a circle of one variety or another. I have several pre-made ways of casting a circle, some of which were someone else's creation that I just fell in love with and some of which are of my own creation. I am just as likely to wing it and use whatever words, gestures, body postures of imagery moves me at the moment.
I've read some very interesting articles on the placement of elements in the circle. I tend towards the air-east, fire-south, water-west, earth-north alignment, although I'm not opposed to trying other things. I have found some of the explanations for other elemental assignations quite compelling, but for me this one works. The same goes for tools, I associate the wand with air and the blade with fire, though I have known quite a few who switch them.
I almost always cast in a sphere, which may or may not fit in the confines of the room I am casting in. I have had lovely discussions with other practitioners about the shape of a 'circle', and am not opposed to magical squares, triangles or other shapes. Intellectually, there is something very compelling about casting a protective pentacle.
I typically orient my circles to the north, and if I am going to set an altar within the circle, this is where I try to place it. If I am not going to set an altar, I still often face north for the meat of a ritual. In the case of a more permanent altar, I like it to be in the north, but sometimes rooms just don't work out well. Right now my altar is in the east of my room. From what I have read, north and east seem to be the most common orientations for circles and altars.
I was reading about rune magic, and came across a statement about how early Germanic custom was to orient east for earthly matters and north for otherworldly matters. And it got me thinking about my tendency to keep my orientation fixed even though often many of the other parts of my circle casting is very flexible.
I think I have the tendency to go with what I first learned, which was to orient north if possible, although east was an acceptable alternative. The basic explanations were fairly logical. North was earth, which was the grounding aspect, east is where I start to cast my circle. Both make solid arguments for being heart of a working. But there is no reason not to orient in other directions, and actually depending on the nature of the working it might gain from an altered construction.
I try to not become too ritualistic in my ritual. That is to say, I believe that rituals should be motivated by meaning and not process. When the actions become rote, they loose a part of their substance. I am constantly trying to find ways to challenge myself, to push myself to think of new ways of approaching the things I already do, of adding new layers to old practices. I think that the more we grow, the deeper we can touch things, and the more meaning we can gain from the simplest of tasks.
I like the idea of turning a ritual about, of facing an emotional charged or water centric ritual so that it faces west. Starting or ending the circle cast in the west would also, in my opinion, subtly alter the focus of the casting. Depending on the intent you have for your circle, you can also tailor the circle to accent instead of mirror your primary purpose. If you are casting to banish an unconscious habit, you might orient to the south but cast your circle from the east, to build up your mental will (so that your conscious mind would overpower the unconscious) or cast from the west to ward off the emotional trigger that was causing the habit.
I've read some very interesting articles on the placement of elements in the circle. I tend towards the air-east, fire-south, water-west, earth-north alignment, although I'm not opposed to trying other things. I have found some of the explanations for other elemental assignations quite compelling, but for me this one works. The same goes for tools, I associate the wand with air and the blade with fire, though I have known quite a few who switch them.
I almost always cast in a sphere, which may or may not fit in the confines of the room I am casting in. I have had lovely discussions with other practitioners about the shape of a 'circle', and am not opposed to magical squares, triangles or other shapes. Intellectually, there is something very compelling about casting a protective pentacle.
I typically orient my circles to the north, and if I am going to set an altar within the circle, this is where I try to place it. If I am not going to set an altar, I still often face north for the meat of a ritual. In the case of a more permanent altar, I like it to be in the north, but sometimes rooms just don't work out well. Right now my altar is in the east of my room. From what I have read, north and east seem to be the most common orientations for circles and altars.
I was reading about rune magic, and came across a statement about how early Germanic custom was to orient east for earthly matters and north for otherworldly matters. And it got me thinking about my tendency to keep my orientation fixed even though often many of the other parts of my circle casting is very flexible.
I think I have the tendency to go with what I first learned, which was to orient north if possible, although east was an acceptable alternative. The basic explanations were fairly logical. North was earth, which was the grounding aspect, east is where I start to cast my circle. Both make solid arguments for being heart of a working. But there is no reason not to orient in other directions, and actually depending on the nature of the working it might gain from an altered construction.
I try to not become too ritualistic in my ritual. That is to say, I believe that rituals should be motivated by meaning and not process. When the actions become rote, they loose a part of their substance. I am constantly trying to find ways to challenge myself, to push myself to think of new ways of approaching the things I already do, of adding new layers to old practices. I think that the more we grow, the deeper we can touch things, and the more meaning we can gain from the simplest of tasks.
I like the idea of turning a ritual about, of facing an emotional charged or water centric ritual so that it faces west. Starting or ending the circle cast in the west would also, in my opinion, subtly alter the focus of the casting. Depending on the intent you have for your circle, you can also tailor the circle to accent instead of mirror your primary purpose. If you are casting to banish an unconscious habit, you might orient to the south but cast your circle from the east, to build up your mental will (so that your conscious mind would overpower the unconscious) or cast from the west to ward off the emotional trigger that was causing the habit.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Three dimentional perspective
I think sometimes my mind is confused as to when I am awake and when I am asleep. It always seems to want to get thoughtful late at night, as I am trying to go to sleep. And when a thought gets to rolling around in my brain, it won't let go.
Last night I was thinking about perspective and comprehension. We've all heard the phrase that something "isn't one sided" or about looking at something from another perspective. I am definitely a big fan of examining things from multiple perspectives. I think that even when I don't agree with a point of view, just being exposed to it deepens my understanding of my own stance on it.
I don't think it's possible to really understand something from just one point of view. I think that concepts are at least three dimensional, and that a single point of view lets you see, at the very most, half of something. Imagine, for a moment, a regular six sided dice. If you look at it, the most you can see, at any one time is three of the faces. But you might only see one, if you are looking square on one of the faces.
With two perspectives, you might have seen the whole of a thing, but you won't have the context to understand how the two halves fit together. To think about the dice again, if the first time you see the sides that have the one, two and three dots on them, and the second time you see the sides with dots four, five and six, you still don't know if the three is next to the four. You have all the information, but without the context, without that other perspective that shows you how the bits you have seen fit together, you still don't have a full idea.
The more ways you can look at a thing, the deeper the understanding you have for it. Reading one book, listening to one person or even doing something one way...these all give you experience, but they don't give you full understanding. Every time you read something different about the same subject, speak to someone new or learn a new way of doing something you already know how to do, it makes your comprehension of the thing just a bit more complete.
I don't think we can ever achieve absolute understanding of a thing. I think there are always more perspectives out there. I don't think I will ever be 'done' learning anything, no matter how basic. I am constantly finding new ways to think of things I thought I knew. New twists that make something I previously learned seem a bit different. Sometimes it takes two or three new thoughts before the first thought makes sense. Sometimes a new thought will completely shatter my understanding of a thing and instead of thinking I was looking at a six sided dice, I now realize my dice has 12 sides.
It can be a pain sometimes to slog through one more 'beginner' book. To read one more website about tarot cards. Or listen to one more person ramble on a forum about how they visualize. But those gems of understanding, those moments that change the way you understand the world around you...those are worth working to uncover.
Last night I was thinking about perspective and comprehension. We've all heard the phrase that something "isn't one sided" or about looking at something from another perspective. I am definitely a big fan of examining things from multiple perspectives. I think that even when I don't agree with a point of view, just being exposed to it deepens my understanding of my own stance on it.
I don't think it's possible to really understand something from just one point of view. I think that concepts are at least three dimensional, and that a single point of view lets you see, at the very most, half of something. Imagine, for a moment, a regular six sided dice. If you look at it, the most you can see, at any one time is three of the faces. But you might only see one, if you are looking square on one of the faces.
With two perspectives, you might have seen the whole of a thing, but you won't have the context to understand how the two halves fit together. To think about the dice again, if the first time you see the sides that have the one, two and three dots on them, and the second time you see the sides with dots four, five and six, you still don't know if the three is next to the four. You have all the information, but without the context, without that other perspective that shows you how the bits you have seen fit together, you still don't have a full idea.
The more ways you can look at a thing, the deeper the understanding you have for it. Reading one book, listening to one person or even doing something one way...these all give you experience, but they don't give you full understanding. Every time you read something different about the same subject, speak to someone new or learn a new way of doing something you already know how to do, it makes your comprehension of the thing just a bit more complete.
I don't think we can ever achieve absolute understanding of a thing. I think there are always more perspectives out there. I don't think I will ever be 'done' learning anything, no matter how basic. I am constantly finding new ways to think of things I thought I knew. New twists that make something I previously learned seem a bit different. Sometimes it takes two or three new thoughts before the first thought makes sense. Sometimes a new thought will completely shatter my understanding of a thing and instead of thinking I was looking at a six sided dice, I now realize my dice has 12 sides.
It can be a pain sometimes to slog through one more 'beginner' book. To read one more website about tarot cards. Or listen to one more person ramble on a forum about how they visualize. But those gems of understanding, those moments that change the way you understand the world around you...those are worth working to uncover.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Horoscopes
I was reading a book about Feng Shui, and it was talking about qualities that people have based on their birthday. I have always looked at such categorizations with a grain of salt, it seemed a bit odd that everyone born in the same month or year would have such similar characteristics. My husband and I are born with a month of each other, on the same year, and in many systems we fall into the same grouping, and yet I see more differences than similarities in how we think and how we approach life.
However, I also know that almost always, when I read the descriptions of the groups that I fall into, I find myself agreeing with a lot of the descriptions. Sometimes I agree with descriptions of groups that I don't belong to, and sometimes I find very little that I can identify with unless I make some very big stretches.
I know that a lot of people dislike horoscopes, especially those that you might find on a website or in a newspaper. Often these horoscopes are very general, and sometimes aren't even really an attempt at fortune telling at all, but a piece of solid advice that almost anyone would benefit from following. Similarly, many systems that group people by element, birth month, birth year or any other type of category give such a broad range of descriptions that everyone finds themselves identifying with some of the characteristics.
Because of this, it is quite common for the entire thing to be considered a fraud, a joke or just completely useless. I think that the problem is not the horoscope, but the way we feel we need to interpret them.
I don't look at a horoscope as a guarantee. It is not a picture of my future, nor a mirror in which I can see my true inner self. Instead, I think about what the horoscope makes me think about myself. If it is telling me about my personal qualities, which ones do I agree with and why? I think that it is so very easy to take our selves for granted, to not really appreciate the things we are good at, the things that are meaningful to us or even the things that we might be lacking in.
And more than just what they make me think, how do those thoughts effect what I do? Many times, I'll get into a personal research project, start reading up about something and get near obsessed with it. I'll want to go out and do everything I read about, change myself to become the picture of me I saw in my mind when I read or thought about something new. This can be a great thing, but it can also be a bad thing. It is easy to go over the top, to focus on the sensational instead of the substance.
When it comes to horoscopes that intend to predict the future, what I find interesting is to see what I pay attention to as the time described by the horoscope comes to pass. Do I find myself focusing on things I might have otherwise overlooked because the horoscope said these things would find their way into my life? This can provide a lot of opportunities, both to emphasize the good and avoid the bad. If I am told that I will meet a new friend today, I am more likely to pay attention to strangers I may meet instead of paying attention to my shopping list or the other things I need to do in the afternoon. If I am told that I should beware while in cars, I will probably be more focused in my driving.
I think that horoscopes have the potential to be really great tools, if we learn how to use them. Dive beneath the surface and see what your horoscope really says about you, and reap the benefits that they have to offer.
However, I also know that almost always, when I read the descriptions of the groups that I fall into, I find myself agreeing with a lot of the descriptions. Sometimes I agree with descriptions of groups that I don't belong to, and sometimes I find very little that I can identify with unless I make some very big stretches.
I know that a lot of people dislike horoscopes, especially those that you might find on a website or in a newspaper. Often these horoscopes are very general, and sometimes aren't even really an attempt at fortune telling at all, but a piece of solid advice that almost anyone would benefit from following. Similarly, many systems that group people by element, birth month, birth year or any other type of category give such a broad range of descriptions that everyone finds themselves identifying with some of the characteristics.
Because of this, it is quite common for the entire thing to be considered a fraud, a joke or just completely useless. I think that the problem is not the horoscope, but the way we feel we need to interpret them.
I don't look at a horoscope as a guarantee. It is not a picture of my future, nor a mirror in which I can see my true inner self. Instead, I think about what the horoscope makes me think about myself. If it is telling me about my personal qualities, which ones do I agree with and why? I think that it is so very easy to take our selves for granted, to not really appreciate the things we are good at, the things that are meaningful to us or even the things that we might be lacking in.
And more than just what they make me think, how do those thoughts effect what I do? Many times, I'll get into a personal research project, start reading up about something and get near obsessed with it. I'll want to go out and do everything I read about, change myself to become the picture of me I saw in my mind when I read or thought about something new. This can be a great thing, but it can also be a bad thing. It is easy to go over the top, to focus on the sensational instead of the substance.
When it comes to horoscopes that intend to predict the future, what I find interesting is to see what I pay attention to as the time described by the horoscope comes to pass. Do I find myself focusing on things I might have otherwise overlooked because the horoscope said these things would find their way into my life? This can provide a lot of opportunities, both to emphasize the good and avoid the bad. If I am told that I will meet a new friend today, I am more likely to pay attention to strangers I may meet instead of paying attention to my shopping list or the other things I need to do in the afternoon. If I am told that I should beware while in cars, I will probably be more focused in my driving.
I think that horoscopes have the potential to be really great tools, if we learn how to use them. Dive beneath the surface and see what your horoscope really says about you, and reap the benefits that they have to offer.
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Twelve African Love Spirits By Doc Hava/ Papa Oloyade
The most common spells asked for are those of love, but love is more then a simple spell it is a planted seed that has to grow. Sex and Lust are easy spells they come with little work and sometimes huge sacrifice. Love is a seed that takes time to grow, with the emotion of water, the passion of fire, the communication of the wind, and the earth to stabilize its roots. When understanding love you must come in contact with the three brothers, the three queens, the three sages, and three dames de la nuit. You must understand that love is not a spell, but it is an understanding, you must find yourself and find the spirit of the one you love; to connect is a celestial unity.
The first brother is Ellegba, the playful heart he is the heart of a young man with the soul of a traveler. He is uneasily tamed but he will always return to the beginning; he may have a traveling heart but his heart is young and filled with adventure. The second brother is Ogun he is the strong silent type, he has the heart of a fierce warrior and the emotions of a soft creature of the forest. Ogun is a very trusting spirit, but always wants to be or feel in control of his surroundings. When he feels that his surroundings are jeopardized he will usually lash out and become fierce. The last of the brothers is Chango, he is the Strong man, the King , he is the fierce warrior and the fierce lover, but he also has a fire cracker like temper. . .he can be rash and temperamental.
The three queens are very strong women, women who know what they want, and women who know how to get it. Beautiful and majestic they stand, and with honor they demand the energy of their mate. The First Queen is Oya, she is a fierce warrior and Queen of the winds and the storm her love is strong and embracing, she is the spirit who believes the way to ones spirit is through his stomach, keep the household warm filling and inviting. Her heart is not one to be tried, because she will very easily over power her lover. The second Queen is Oshun, the Queen of the pure waters, her heart is that of young love and healing the wounded lover. Her love dances and cleanses the life of old love, scorn her and she will use her currents to suffocate you. The third Queen is Yemaya Queen of the deep ocean, all waters of love flow into her and she is the mother of all life. Her love is that of a strong protective lover and mother, she nurtures and cares for those who she loves. To cross her is a trying task, since all energies are touched by her she has the ability to counter and then drag you into her depths.
The three sages are the men who think with the deep hearts, the souls that have experienced the love of the ages and gained wisdom from its lessons. The first is Obatala the wise spirit of creation, is love like the warming blanket, he is the lover who cares and nurtures you knowing of the cold times. He is the over protective energy, he knows that things can go wrong so he has the ability to over prepare. His over preparedness can be a smothering experience and often overwhelm people, but as his love creates; if scorn his love will reverse all that he has made. The second of the sages is the silent mystic Orunula he is the guardian of what is and what is to become, this lover sees you for your past and sees you for your future. He sees the pure qualities in all he touches; he usually guards this knowledge with a tight lip, unless asked for the knowledge. His spirit will be the dark silent type, but if treated with disrespect he will see it coming and move away quickly and call you out on your short comings. The last of the sages is Babalu Aye, the love of a healer and the love of the scorned one. He understands the one whose heart and body have been broken, his spirit embraces and bandages up wounds from the past. His love is strong and his heart yearns to heal his beloved; betray his love and sickness and anger will fall upon you, do not betray his nurturing spirit for naivety.
The three dames de la nuit, are the ladies of the night, they are free moving female spirits who walk to the beat of their own drum. The first being Obba the queen of the sweet waters and river berries. She is the warrior spirit, and the spirit that keeps the fresh water reserves like the spring and the lakes. She strives with her energies to keep families together, and will sacrifice herself at the altar for the one she loves. Her love nurtures and is a sustaining love, but if her sacrifice is rejected she will dry up her wealth of love and starve her lover of the nurturing waters that kept him filled. The second of the ladies is Pomba Gira, the woman who needs no man. She is a strong woman who is extremely passionate and sexual. She loves to be loved and doted upon, she loves finer things and enjoys for the energy focused on her. Pomba Gira’s energy is that a traveling soul and a gypsy in the night, she is the woman who will return to the man who can be the most giving and the most loving. The last is Maman Brigette the lady who walks among the gravestone; she holds her love for those who have fallen into darkness. She embraces those who are sad and lost. She is a staunch woman who will smoke and drink and sing bawdy songs with her lovers. Maman Brigette will stay strong to her lovers and keep them comforted moving them from the darkness into salvation, treat Maman Brigette wrong and she will allow you to fall into the depth of darkness were light seems unseen.
When dealing with love these are the basic seeds, a human body can hold either a male or female spirit; ones specific gender is not the rubric for the African Spirit one may hold. Understanding the divine energies that dwell in our love paths, is the basis to a successful relationship; these are the spirits that make or break ones heart and soul. Use these energies to your benefit and gain the blessings of “Happily Ever After”. Ase Doc Hava or Papa Oloyade on Facebook
